About SELF: Survivor / Empower / Life Coach / Financial

The next couple of years were crazy, I felt as though I was losing my mind; he consistently lied to me and denied everything. He was emotionally and mentally abusive to me and I didn’t even know it. I had always believed that domestic violence was a physical thing. The abuse continued to escalate. After the birth of our daughter, I decided I had to leave him …and that decision did not come easy.

I began to tell my family, friends and co-workers what was going on and my intentions. They all became my support system. When we separated, he moved in with one of his girlfriends while the children and I moved back to my mother’s house. However, he continued to stalk me. He made threats to hurt me. He broke into my mother’s house and threatened me with a knife. The children and I were transported to a “safe house”. His famous quote was “till death do us part”. He vowed to kill me and anyone I became involved with.

I notified my friends and family that they could be in danger. He viciously stabbed a new friend of mine and ended up serving 5 years in jail for aggravated assault. It was a devastating time in my life. Everything changed. I used that five-year period to improve my life by getting a divorce and completing my four-year college degree. During this time, I also worked a fulltime job, raised my two children, and volunteered to help other women who were going through domestic violence. I was able to accomplish all this with the help and support of my family, friends and co-workers.

Ultimately, I relocated with my children before he came out of jail. Today my children are on their own and I have a successful career. I continue to volunteer to help other women who have suffered domestic violence. My ex-husband is currently back in jail serving 19 years for the attempted murder of one of his girlfriends (who is the mother of 3 of his children). I have experienced a shift in my attitude, my energy and how I see the world. I bring this experience with me when I come to the table every day, and it manifests in how I treat people. I coach, I motivate, I inspire, I lead. All of this and so much more is what moves me from survivor to victor, and you too can move from survivor to victor.